I’m sure it
is a common experience that going back to places, particularly ones you knew as
children, they always seem smaller. I suppose it is fairly obvious that as a
child everything seems larger while seen as an adult it is relatively smaller.
I haven’t
been back to the house where I lived as a boy but I have been next door about
twenty years ago.. It was so completely different even though it was part of a pair
of semi’s that I had no particular feelings. There was no recognition although had
I visited many times. The thing which was strange was the garden which really
did seem different and small compared to my memory.
When I
revisited my primary school it also seemed smaller although the effect was
limited as the removable divider was removed whereas it would have been in place
when I was attending. The visit was strange because although it was open when I
approached a disembodied voice asked who I was. It took a while to locate the
owner of the voice who was nearby down some steps marking the edge with white
paint. It was all the more strange as it was someone who I had known in the
distant past.
I have
revisited cities I knew. Easily the most changed was Liverpool. The city I
recall has now a large new area , Liverpool 1, between the docks and the old
centre. I was completely disorientated to the extent of relief when I finally
found parts I remembered. In contrast the area where we lived on the Wirral
peninsula across the Mersey seemed remarkably unchanged. Of course things had
grown. The acer tree we planted on the front lawn of our first house is now a
large tree no longer the small sapling I recall. However the Bebington area is
very much the same.
The major
shock of our visit, made at our golden wedding, was to find the flat where we
lived when first married in a large Victorian house on the banks of the River
Dee is now a smart old peoples home. Its large garden is now mainly new houses.
Our house on Church Road remains surprisingly similar although I was amazed to
see the farm gate I put up with so much difficulty nearly 40 years ago is still there. Our front
lawn is now gravel rather than grass..
Sometimes the
immediate contours of the place have changed. Although the house where I lived
as a boy looks the same only a few yards away the landscape has been completely
changed to accommodate a motorway. The hill which seemed so large as a child is
now blended into a slight gradient leading to a bridge. Equally changed further
on towards the village of Austrey the unmade lane I remember ( Garborough Lane
) is now the entrance to the village playing field.
As part of
our golden wedding celebrations we thought it would be nice to return to the
Orton-on –the-Hill pub we reached on our first date. This time rather than
sitting outside with a shandy ( Annette was still underage I realise now ) we
had a meal. The server was understandably only politely interested when I said
we had been there 50 years ago.
I aroused
more interest at the Bird-in –Hand pub when I explained my father had been
brought up there by his grandparents. In fact pubs featured heavily in his life
as he later, after his grandparents death, lived with his aunt at the Queens
Head . He briefly ran the pub after his aunt died. Mother was bitterly opposed
to his becoming a publican as she regarded pubs with near horror. So he gave up
after a few months.
To retell (
with more acceptable language ) a Jack Dee joke.
A boy goes
out with his Dad to the shops. The boy becomes lost in a shop and the kindly
assistant asks what’s his father like. “
Beer and women with big breasts” is the reply.
Church Road House, Bebington